What are things you aim to avoid in porn? – Things I reply no to in sex

2019/06/30

Stretching out vagina, to “see inside”, or stretching with items just for the concept of stretching. I understand this is a big thing in some porn videos and it’s fine. Though not for me personally. I upkeep my vagina to keep myself tight, and my arse even moreso. I don’t like the thought of ruining my hard work just so people can see deep inside. Normal penetration causing stretching is fine, as this can be handled. Hardcore dragon dildo and fisting stretching is much harder to manage in terms of returning your vagina back to its prior tight state.

Unprofessional Sexual Acts

“Dry anal”, ie, without lubricant. Any form of hardcore anal that oversteps the normal boundary of that area. I have had much less anal over my life and would have to be done extremely tastefully for me to agree to doing it as it can be very painful for me. The first time I had anal I passed out from the pain. I had a few partners who were adept at it and understand there is some enjoyment in it. The last time it occurred I was drunk and it was slipped in, and I bled due to being so tight and the act being dry. I have a video on Pornhub Premium of putting in a small butt plug and taking about 20 minutes to ease it in. So not my favourite hobby.

I heard in a documentary that vagina has at least 10 erogenous zones inside, and one of these is sitting on the vaginal back wall. So when you have anal, it stimulates this erogenous zone inside the vagina due to that connected wall from the pressure. I understand it can be arousing, just for me, it also carries the risk of pain and so I’m much less keen to be doing it but it is also acceptable done right.

Specific Dirty Talk

In dirty talk, overdone words like, “daddy”, or “baby” I would prefer to say only rarely, and only rarely spoken to me. As it makes me think of my actual dad (the actual damn definition of the word) or myself having a baby (which may not be what I want to think about doing with the random person I’m having sex with), and that complicates my state of arousal and is hard to focus on the sex act.

Baby mostly because is sighting the person is our dependant. Your child. Not your equal. Someone you need to carry around and feed. I would prefer to psychologically keep the word baby, to children. And the word daddy, to fathers. Is just the kind of person I am. If you are the father of my children that is different, and you have earnt that title. I believe words are important.

I think its fine for others to do if they wish of course. If you like the fact that your wife may have called a dozen men daddy before you were the actual dad of the household. Or that your husband may have called a dozen women his baby that he loves. That is your call… that is just where I am coming from. Due to it being separate from you those words, that is father and child roles. All good if he wants to call a woman his whore, or her to call him a notch on her belt, because that only involves the people using the words in the definitions :).



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